We Are Mothers

A little venting is in order today.....I know, that is very emotionally immature of me, but I have to get some things out. Don't worry, nothing too personal, just mothers stuff.

I am seriously hurt when I see people I know and love purposely turn their backs on trying their hardest to be good mothers. I guess it is the time and age we live in.

" Men's (and mother's and wife's) hearts will fail them." 
The "really?" or "I cannot believe you did that?" consume my thoughts for a moment.  My heart bleeds for them and their children, and just the whole MOTHERHOOD cause which I believe so strongly in.

Have you heard the quote..."As the family goes, so goes the whole nation and whole world." --Pope John Paul II

How about this one..."As the MOTHER goes, so goes the family" 

Try as we might, we cannot separate ourselves from our divine, sacred role of mothers.  We are mothers.   Always.  Everyday.  No Matter What.  We set the tone for our families and lead our families according to our examples.  The family follows our lead, both the spoken and unspoken.

I will be the first to tell you I am not the best mother.  OK, well maybe by daughters would tell you that. They see my personal imperfections the most.  But regardless of our individual weaknesses, we must not give up the cause of MOTHERHOOD. 

This is NOT the time to  sow our wild un-sown oats from our teenage-hood.  We are not teenagers living in motherly bodies.  It was time to give all that up a lo-o--ong time ago.  We Are Mothers.  And need to act like it. 

We need to stop this mentality that is from the adversary meant and devised only to weaken mothers and eventually destroy the family, that it is OUR turn for everything.  That is such a needy and selfish way of thinking. It upsets the balance of the family.  As we are going out having "our turn", who is doing our role in the home?  Well, the children and husband are. They are at home waiting for their wife and mother to be done doing "their thing".   This "having our turn"  doesn't even strengthen us, like it promises to do.  It just emotionally detaches us from our sacred role as mothers and wives. 

It is not our turn, it is the Savior's turn. Not ours. Everything we do and are, needs to be what He would do and what He is.  We take His place in the home.  We are the healers and the nurtures. Just as everything HE did was about the Father, everything we do needs to be about the Savior.

We need to be the example of leading ourselves and our children to Christ.
Here is a great Mormon Message about Men's (and women's) heart failing them,
and that what we need is

Being an LDS Woman

My dear friends

My feelings of being a mother, wife, and daughter of God run very deep and it is hard to put my feelings on paper of what it means to me to be a literal daughter of God.  He is our Father.  He loves us more than we can understand. Our purpose and plan for being women is deeper and more complex and TRUE than we can possibly understand.

I love how this woman expresses herself and explains it all.  It all goes back to the Garden of Eden and EVE.  Our purpose in being mothers and women is packed with power.  This is a MUST READ talk written by Morman Scholar Valerie Cassler. 

Day of Grace

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Mormon was the great Nephite  prophet, military general, and record keeper of
The Book of Mormon. (311-385 A.D.)

Mormon was  instructed to prepare himself to take charge of the records and record keeping.  At the time Mormon was 10 years old. Ammaron, the one who was keeping the records and preserving the records at that time, noticed that Mormon was" a sober, and quick to observe" child.  He told him that when he reached the age of 24, he was to go to the specific hill that he had hid all the records, and go there and engrave the things he observes with the people.  After recording the history of his own lifetime, Mormon abridged the large plates of Nephi on the plates of Mormon. He later turned this sacred record over to his son Moroni. These plates were part of the record from which Joseph Smith translated the Book of Mormon (See also: Introduction to the Book of Mormon) )

Mormon lived during a very violent, corrupt, and evil stricken time of Book of Mormon history. Horrible scenes  were their everyday life, and can only be placed at the end of a civilization . (Mormon 1)
But wickedness did prevail upon the face of the whole land, insomuch that the Lord did take away his beloved disciples, and the work of miracles and of healing did cease because of the iniquity of the people. 
 And there were no gifts from the Lord, and the Holy Ghost did not come upon any, because of their wickedness and unbelief. 
 And I, being fifteen years of age and being somewhat of a sober mind, therefore I was visited of the Lord, and tasted and knew of the goodness of Jesus. 
And I did endeavor to preach unto this people, but my mouth was shut, and I was forbidden that I should preach unto them;
 At what we would consider now a days, a very young age, Mormon was called to lead the Nephite army. He was 15.  The people looked to Mormon as a savior.  To save them.  They looked to him as if he were their last and only hope of survival. Yet, it was without  hope because they would not listen to Mormon, and would not repent of their sins and come unto Christ so that HE could save them. 

Mormon went to great lengths and personal sorrow, to teach them to repent and come unto Christ. At times, he was hopeful that their sorrows would turn them to Christ. But it was not to be.

 Their Day of Grace had passed.
"And they did not come unto Jesus with broken hearts and contrite spirits, but they did curse God, and wish to die. Nevertheless they would struggle with the sword for their lives" Mormon 2:14
"And it came to pass that my sorrow did return unto me again, and I saw that the day of grace was passed with them, both temporally and spiritually; for I saw thousands of them hewn down in open rebellion against their God, and heaped up as dung upon the face of the land. And thus three hundred and forty and four years had passed away" Mormon 2:15 
Their day of grace had passed. Their day of grace had passed both temporally and spiritually.    I found that to be a powerful statement.

Did you know that there was a grace period with the Lord?

We have grace periods in our temporal everyday lives when it comes to the law. 

This definition of grace period can be thought of in a spiritual way with the Lord in mind.

Definition: A grace period is a time past the deadline for an obligation during which a late penalty that would have been imposed is waived. Grace periods, which can range from a number of minutes to a number of days or longer, depending on the context, can apply in various situations, including arrival at a job, paying a bill, for meeting a government or legal requirement, or in many other situations.

So with that definition, I learn that the Lord's Day of Grace is FILLED with mercy.  He has forgiven, He has given and shown mercy when mercy wasn't expected or deserved. He has gone on- and -on with waiting, showing mercy, forgiving, when the time was WAY past for change and repentance. Yet He still forgave and gave mercy.  It sounds to me as if HE the Lord, determines the time period of our day of grace and when it is passed.  Each specific and extremely personal to each one of His children.

The Bible Dictionary explanation of GRACE:
The main idea of the word is divine means of help or strength, given through the bounteous mercy and love of Jesus Christ.
It is through the grace of the Lord Jesus, made possible by His atoning sacrifice, that mankind will be raised in immortality, every person receiving his body from the grave in a condition of everlasting life. It is likewise through the grace of the Lord that individuals, through faith in the Atonement of Jesus Christ and repentance of their sins, receive strength and assistance to do good works that they otherwise would not be able to maintain if left to their own means. This grace is an enabling power that allows men and women to lay hold on eternal life and exaltation after they have expended their own best efforts.
Divine grace is needed by every soul in consequence of the Fall of Adam and also because of man’s weaknesses and shortcomings. However, grace cannot suffice without total effort on the part of the recipient. Hence the explanation, “It is by grace that we are saved, after all we can do” (2 Ne. 25:23). It is truly the grace of Jesus Christ that makes salvation possible.
The Day of Grace passed for the Nephite people because they did not put forth any works of righteousness. Grace applies AFTER we have "expended our own best efforts"  "total effort on the part of the recipient"  "after all we can do"

If we give up, don't care, quit trying, and live a life of wickedness-grace cannot be applied towards us. At least that is how I understand it.

It is a gift given to us as we do our part.

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I can't help but thing of the Atonement  and the"enabling power," or the ability to overcome anything that I am facing.  I was recently referred to a talk by Elder Bateman given in October 2005 General Conference.  He said, "For many years I thought of the Savior’s experience in the garden and on the cross as places where a large mass of sin was heaped upon Him. Through the words of Alma, Abinadi, Isaiah, and other prophets, however, my view has changed. Instead of an impersonal mass of sin, there was a long line of people, as Jesus felt “our infirmities” (Heb. 4:15), “[bore] our griefs, … carried our sorrows … [and] was bruised for our iniquities” (Isa. 53:4–5).

The Atonement was an intimate, personal experience in which Jesus came to know how to help each of us."  I promise that is true.  He knows me, He knows you, and He will "run unto us" when we run to Him.  
References and more reading on this topic:

You Must Become the ROCK the River Cannot Wash Away


Hello my friends!  I am finally posting something again!  It has been a while! 

Since I posted last....our 4th daughter, one of our twins, received her mission call to Peru Trujillo Mission.  She is going October 7th to the Lima MTC.  We are super excited and have been busy learning all about Trujillo and her mission.  We will have 3 daughters in South America at the same time.  One in Argentina, one in Chile, and one in Peru.

 Because of having three missionary daughters out at once, I have decided TWO missionary blogs was really more than I wanted to keep up on. Heavens, I am having a hard time just keeping up on this blog.  And of coarse, it is not the most important thing in life, but it is fun, and a spiritual outlet for me.

So this past week I created ONE blog for our THREE missionary daughters.  I am calling it Sisters in South America.  It is still under construction...kinda... Hope they don't mind  sharing a blog (they are used to sharing ), but it is going to make my missionary-mom life much simpler.

One of our missionary daughters shared a  great conference talk with us in her last letter,
  The Strength to Endure from Richard J. Maynes 
You know we all need that strength to get through the hard experiences life brings. 

Elder Maynes teaches a powerful truth: 
We must become the ROCK the river cannot wash away. 

We all know someone, or ARE that someone, who has such HARD trials, and we wonder how we can survive the moment we are in?  How do we endure?  Where do we they pull our strength from?

Elder Maynes teaches that strength to endure comes from
personal testimony and personal conversion. 

That is what makes all the difference. 

 It not only gives us the strength, but it shines the light of perspective upon our experiences, so we are able to see truth and have hope while we endure...and learn!

I am no stranger to enduring trials.  But I am not campaigning to be president. I don't want that office necessarily.  Yet, want it or not, we all take our turn with it.

"Endurance is an important principle found within the doctrine of Jesus Christ. It is important because the quality of our eternal future is proportional to our ability to endure in righteousness." -Elder Maynes

I invite you to go to that talk ...It is a must read !


Mothering a Young Adult

Halceta Lighthouse taken on our Oregon family vacation

Mothering  a young adult is a lot different than mothering  a child through the infant, toddler, school-age, and teenager ages.  In the young adult age, we really have to practice some restraint in not saying what might be on our minds and what we really want to say! It is this interesting mix of them still being children and needing guidance from their parents, but being adults and needing to make their own decisions.  We have given them hopefully the right tools to make correct decisions, then we have to hang back a little and let them make the decisions.

Interesting thing though, I have noticed that the young adult stage is a stage when they may need us the most. And when they need us, they will really need us. When things are good, and their friends are there and their plans are in place and working, they may not even notice us besides wanting something from us.  But  when things start falling apart, or when they struggle, they will need us in a strong way.  And, we really need to be ready to guide them. They may actually want to hear what we have to say.

A very common principle we can teach our young adult children RIGHT away, is the principle taught by Boyd K. Packer in a life experience he shared known by The Edge of Light. I read this first, in a book he wrote many years ago called Watchman on the Tower. Since then, he has used it in several General Conference talks, and it is a fairly familiar story to the LDS.  I love this story and have personally used this  many times to guide my own life, and now to guide my children's life.

The main principle from this story is that  sometimes in our lives, and it seems to happen first in that young adult stage of making life decisions, that the Lord requires us to walk to the edge of light.  The edge of light is the place when we step away from our comfort zones where we can see, our plans, our ideas, and find out what the Lord wants for us. 

Usually this follows a hard time of searching and feeling lost. A time when it feels we are at a cross-roads and all the doors are closing in our lives.   This is a time when the spirit is whispering to us the steps to take.  We are listening, but not sure if what we are feeling is right.  Usually that step might be in a direction that feels scary to us, or in a direction we haven't previously thought of going. 

We take a few steps into the darkness.  This darkness is dark only because it is unknown to us, but not the Lord.  An area where we cannot see what is ahead or how things are going to turn out, and th only thing we have to hold on to that is remotely familiar, is the Lord's hand.  We take a few steps into this darkness of faith, knowing that although we cannot see, the Lord can.  And His plan is greater and more magnificent than anything we can come up with on our own.

  As we take His  hand and trust in His plan for our lives, the light will, rather quickly,  appear before us and light the way. 

This is a powerful life-changing action of faith, that will make all the difference in our children's life.
As well as a guiding principle for our  lives as we reach those edges of light when we have huge decisions to make, and needing to stop, listen, and find out what the Lord may have in mind.

The Edge of Light
Move Forward in Faith
Watchman on the Tower