Tuesday, May 21, 2013

Motherhood: You are Blessed!



So many thoughts are running through my mind right now.  I love being a mother!  It fills me with so much joy and happiness. I loved being pregnant. I loved having new borns, I love the Elementary innocence age, I love the teenager age, and I look forward to having married daughters and grandchildren. I credit who I am as a mother to my own angel mother and the amazing example she set for me.  I hope I can do the same for my daughters. It never ends and it is so fulfilling

I love being a woman and knowing that I am a literal daughter of God. I really know that He lives and that I am one of his daughters.

It makes me sad when I see women and girls, who are learning too young, to not honor their divine feminine qualities and try to be something they are not.  Women and girls who don't want to be mothers or wives. I am not talking about women who havent' married, not out of their own choice, or who haven't had children, to no fault of their own. But to those who choose not to.   There is no fullfillment in that journey. Just emptiness.

I bumped into an amazing article on the importance of motherhood written by Rebecca Walker, the  daughter of  the Color Purple author, Alice Walker who was  an extreme feminist.  Take a minute and read this compelling story of how a daughter of an obsessed feminist found the joy of motherhood.

 

Her mother Alice, looked at motherhood as servitude and thought of it as the worst thing that could happen to a woman.

"It reminds me of just how blessed I am. The truth is that I very nearly missed out on becoming a mother - thanks to being brought up by a rabid feminist who thought motherhood was about the worst thing that could happen to a woman.
You see, my mum taught me that children enslave women. I grew up believing that children are millstones around your neck, and the idea that motherhood can make you blissfully happy is a complete fairytale.
In fact, having a child has been the most rewarding experience of my life. Far from 'enslaving' me, three-and-a-half-year-old Tenzin has opened my world. My only regret is that I discovered the joys of motherhood so late - I have been trying for a second child for two years, but so far with no luck.
 
I was raised to believe that women need men like a fish needs a bicycle. But I strongly feel children need two parents and the thought of raising Tenzin without my partner, Glen, 52, would be terrifying.
 
As the child of divorced parents, I know only too well the painful consequences of being brought up in those circumstances. Feminism has much to answer for denigrating men and encouraging women to seek independence whatever the cost to their families. " -Rebecca Walker
This is such an interesting article from the voice of someone not brought up to value womanhood or motherhood, but who found it, and discovered what was truly important.

I feel the Lord who is so merciful, will have so much mercy on us as we strive to do our very best, and in many cases, having to overcome a very difficult past.  This article was so inspiring to me.

Let us not forget who we are, what our mission is on the earth, and the importance of choosing to be a mother and a wife.  Let us teach our daughters of the joy. 

Nothing else really matters.Things, clothes, whats happening on Face book...none of that matters.  Look at your children and just feel how blessed you are as a mother.  They may not be perfect (few are), but just ponder on your blessings. 

 Look into their eyes. Listen to them when they talk to you. Take time to be with them.

You are blessed!





Motherhood: That is influence that is power!






Wednesday, May 15, 2013

The Order of Obedience






We had our first four children in three years.  It was a feat that few can accomplish.  We had twins which doubled things up pretty fast. I remember waiting for the birth of our twins, and realizing how out numbered my husband and I would be with our little family and knowing that above all, we needed to have order. 

Prior to their births, I prayed many times that the Lord would show me how to have a family with order. I knew my sanity and happiness depended on it. I started training myself to be more orderly, and started teaching my children some basic principles.

My first realization from the Lord was to teach obedience.  Obedience comes in  steps or layers, especially when they are very young. They can't be expected to do step 3 if they haven't mastered step 1.  If they do, and you allow it, the order is lost, and no principles are taught.

For example, one of our first steps when they were little bitty, was to stay in our own yard to play.  This was very important to me, that they learn to obey this first instruction.  I felt if they can't obey the first rule to stay in our own yard to play, then they can't go to a friends house to play.  That was one of the first obedience steps that we had in our home.

Another obedience step as they got older was that they have to contribute to the family. They are expected to keep their room clean and do other house jobs.  If those things aren't done, then they can't enjoy other privileges  like going and playing with friends.  It has just become a basic order of obedience in our family.

Obedience may seem or feel redundant to some. It is following the little things.  It is about not excusing ourselves from the rules no matter who they come from.  There is a measure of sacrifice that  goes with it.  Both from the parents to stand by it and to teach it, and for the youth or children to follow it.

We have learned as a family, that obedience is the first law of heaven, and with it brings great happiness, peace, and blessings.

There were two great talks this past General Conference on obedience.  One was from Elder L. Tom Perry Obedience to Law is Liberty and the other from President Monson Obedience Brings Blessings.  I would encourage you to read these two talks. They are excellent.

Obedience is an eternal principle of God.  With it comes strength and great blessings.

 “The happiness of the Latter-day Saints, the peace of the Latter-day Saints, the progress of the Latter-day Saints, the prosperity of the Latter-day Saints, and the eternal salvation and exaltation of this people lie in walking in obedience to the counsels of … God.”
 
"Obedience is a hallmark of prophets; it has provided strength and knowledge to them throughout the ages. It is essential for us to realize that we, as well, are entitled to this source of strength and knowledge. It is readily available to each of us today as we obey God’s commandments"
 
"...the great test of this life is obedience. “We will prove them herewith,” said the Lord, “to see if they will do all things whatsoever the Lord their God shall command them.”-Obedience Brings Blessings.

I especially love the middle quote that we can have what the prophets have--- through obedience. Obedience is the hallmark of their lives and we are also entitled to that same strength and that same knowledge. We are all God's children, and He wants us to be obedient.  I really love that.

"In Doctrine and Covenants 130 we read:
 
“There is a law, irrevocably decreed in heaven before the foundations of this world, upon which all blessings are predicated—
“And when we obtain any blessing from God, it is by obedience to that law upon which it is predicated” (D&C 130:20–21).
 
Surely there could not be any doctrine more strongly expressed in the scriptures than the Lord’s unchanging commandments and their connection to our happiness and well-being as individuals, as families, and as a society. There are moral absolutes. Disobedience to the Lord’s commandments will always deprive us of His blessings. These things do not change.
 
In a world where the moral compass of society is faltering, the restored gospel of Jesus Christ never wavers, nor should its stakes and wards, its families, or its individual members. We must not pick and choose which commandments we think are important to keep but acknowledge all of God’s commandments. We must stand firm and steadfast, having perfect confidence in the Lord’s consistency and perfect trust in His promises.
May we ever be a light on the hill, an example in keeping the commandments, which have never changed and will never change.- Obedience to Law is Liberty




Have a great day!



Friday, May 10, 2013

Becoming a Mother Who Knows

Re-post. for Mother's Day..This is what it is all about for me




Are you aspiring to be a Mother Who Knows?

Becoming a mother who knows is not for the faint of heart.  It is not for those who want to take the easy road of motherhood or hope that courageous parenting won't require too much of them.  Becoming a mother who knows,  is not for wimps.  It is not for the faith-less, of those not wanting to make the time or the effort to fill their lamps with oil. 

Becoming a mother who knows is a sanctifying journey.That means it's holy and sacred.  It is about sacrifice, strength, faith, trusting in God and turning to him FIRST and more than anyone or anything else.  It is traveling the road less traveled, and being different in a good way from others.  It is literally, about becoming.

Howard W. Hunter said this:
"You are chosen to be faithful women of God in our day, to stand above pettiness, gossip, selfishness, lewdness, and all other forms of ungodliness.  Recognize your divine birthright as daughters of our Heavenly Father"-Daughters in My Kingdom

The book, Daughters in my Kingdom, can teach us how to become
Mothers Who Know. 

 


Thursday, May 9, 2013

Being Healthy

Over the past 3 years, I have gradually added on 20 extra pounds!  It seems my "new" set-point weight is permanently stuck and I can't seem to break out of the zone I am in with my weight. 

I have been on a personal quest to eat healthier, exercise more, blah, blah, blah. 

So to be the MOST informed, I have been doing my homework.  I have checked out books, bought books, scoured the Internet, listened to good advice from those around me wanting to offer me the best solutions, pinned countless healthy recipes and miracle exercise routines from Pintrest...  AND....after all that RESEARCH and knowledge, I have come to one conclusion:

 
I still know nothing:
  •  Eggs are good protein and I should eat them every morning for breakfast/ they are bad for me...all that fat and cholestorel!
  • Yogurt is a healthy breakfast/there is so little protein it does you little good
  • Stop eating breakfast cereals!/ Cereal is a good source of fiber and nutrition
  • Strength training will shape your body and build muscel and burn fat/ GET out there and start running/cardio is not as important as we once thought
  • Fish, Whey, and tofu/ [GAG!]
  • Try these specific exercises to target the trouble spots to tone and shape your body, then you can be "like me"/ [ very impressive, for sure, but I just want to lose 20 pounds not enter a body building contest]
  • Spinach, all green, smoothies!
  • Orange Juice is a good source of Vitamin C/ Juice? Are you kidding?!  That will spike your blood sugar, and you will gain weight
 
 Yes, I have all this information in my head,and every source competing with the last,   all contradicting, I am left with just a dizzying amount of knowledge that has left me with nothing to go from.
 
 
Daniel prophesied of the last days:  “knowledge shall be increased” and “many shall run to and fro” (Dan. 12:4).

And I love this scripture....

2 Timothy 3:7 "Ever learning and never coming to a knowledge of the truth"

One of our new favorite TV shows is Studio C, a BYU-student created comedy skits.  This comedy skit exaggerates the point of "ever learning (about health) and never coming to sure knowledge of the truth"  It illustrates the one-upmanship we feel swirling around us from our health industry.

It is pretty funny! Hope you enjoy!




Have a great day!