Monday, June 10, 2013

Family home

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Being  a mother at this time has it's challenges!!  I think one of the hardest challenges we face here in the U.S is the pressures of wanting our children to HAVE everything and to BE everything. The drive to make sure our children do not miss out, is a strong motherly instinct.  It can become a vice instead of a virtue, leading us away from valuable family experiences at home.

I loved the intro to an article in this month's Ensign article,  Nine Principles for a Successful Marriage and Family.

Let's check it out:


"Amy Adams  was trying to decide which activities would be best for her three young children when a conversation with her mother changed her mind. “What if you gave your children something better than training in sports or dance?” Amy’s mother asked. “What if by staying home, they could learn to feel the Spirit more?” Then her mother reminded her of what President Dieter F. Uchtdorf, Second Counselor in the First Presidency, has taught about the power of focusing on life’s basic relationships (see, for example, “Of Things That Matter Most,” Ensign, Nov. 2010, 19–22).

Amy and her husband, Brett, prayed about and pondered this counsel and felt it would be a good idea for their family to spend more time together at home. For one year, they chose to forgo dance and sports; instead they prepared meals, learned Primary songs, visited museums, and played outdoors. “Our children were able to feel the Spirit … because we took the time to stop and listen,” Amy says. Their children may not be the top sports and dance stars, she says, “but they have a testimony of the Savior.”

Amy and Brett prayed to know how they should personally follow the counsel of modern prophets, and doing so allowed them to receive inspiration for their family. Amy says this inspiration led to her “proudest moments as a mother.”

Two things  that stand out to me with this example that I particularly loved:

Wise council from her mother
 There is great strength in the continuing mothering we receive from our mothers. Mothers who are not necessarily caught up in the business we are  can give a great perspective.  Wise and careful mothering never stops. Thank-you Mom for all the counsel you give me.  I cherish it!!
 Inspiration led to her "proudest moments as a mother"

It made me ask myself if I am missing proud mothering moments?  Being caught up in the latest trends of mothering(making sure our children have all and can be all). As well as listening to the voice that it is "our turn" now, and that we need our time.  These are all worldly mothering trends that don't necessarily strengthen us as mothers (although the world paints the illusion it does) or our families. 

I love the principle of  good, better, and best in mothering.  It always does us good to step back and see where we are on this principle.  We have to be able to step away from what is swirling around as "good motherhood" and see if it is right or best for our own families.  Having our children in sports and activities is good. They all have talents to develop, it is good to keep them busy, it builds up their self-esteem, etc.  This is all good.

Running non-stop in the car from one activity to the other without leaving any time for not always strengthening. Sometimes we can't help that from happening. With wise mothering and careful scheduling, we can make it less and be home more.  Our  children need nurturing time at home to  learn to clean house, cook, be creative, do yard work, and have quiet time to just think.

I wrote a post on this last year  concerning my daughter Alyssa and all of her loves. She wanted to do everything, but realized she couldn't.  Read that article HERE.

Let's strengthen our families by remembering how our children need time at home to be nurtured by us and to be fed by the spirit.