Monday, August 6, 2012

Avoiding Degrading Media Influences: YW Lesson on Pornography

In talking about pornography, I am reminded of Lot and his wife who were living in a city consumed by sexual sins.  I feel like we are living in a modern-day Sodom and Gomorrah where we are surrounded by pornography.  We have become accustomed to it as it is our "norm".  But we must fight it and protect our families and loved ones so they are not consumed by it.

We need to teach our Young Women about pornography and how to fight it.
I chose to use the picture of Esther to symbolize the need for all of us to stand up against pornography.  Now is our time and we were all "called to the kingdom as such a time as this" to fight against this "avalanche of evil" we find ourselves in.

This is the time to be Mothers Who Know and Young Women Who Know.


 Young Womens Manual 1: Lesson # 33 : Avoiding Degrading Media Influences. 

This lesson was taught as a Joint Young Women lesson.  I used a few quotes and suggestions from the lesson manual and Elder Dallin H. talk {Pornography}  The following are excerpts from this talk.  It is a must read !

Object Lesson: Piece of rotten fruit with quote from Elder Oaks:

       Pornographic stories and pictures are erotic or worse than filthy or polluted food. The body has defenses to rid itself of unwholesome food. With a few fatal exceptions, bad food will only make you sick but do no permanent harm. In contrast, a person who feasts upon filthy stories or pornographic or erotic pictures and literature records them in this marvelous retrieval system we call a brain. The brain won’t vomit back filth. Once recorded, it will always remain subject to recall, flashing its perverted images across your mind and drawing you away from the wholesome things in life.”1

­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­Scriptures on pornography

“Woe unto you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! for ye make clean the outside of the cup and of the platter, but within they are full of extortion and excess.
“Thou blind Pharisee, cleanse first that which is within the cup and platter, that the outside of them may be clean also” (Matt. 23:25–26; see also Alma 60:23).

Scripture Examples

Joseph resisting Potipher's Wife: Genesis 39
David and Bathsheba:  Though a spiritual giant in Israel, he allowed himself to look upon something he should not have viewed (see 2 Sam. 11). Tempted by what he saw, he violated two of the Ten Commandments, beginning with “Thou shalt not commit adultery” (Ex. 20:14). In this way a prophet-king fell from his exaltation (see D&C 132:39).
Lot and his wife- Not looking back: Genesis 19

Dangers of pornography-to name only a few:

The immediate spiritual consequences of such hypocrisy are devastating. Those who seek out and use pornography forfeit the power of their priesthood. The Lord declares: “When we undertake to cover our sins, … behold, the heavens withdraw themselves; the Spirit of the Lord is grieved; and when it is withdrawn, Amen to the priesthood or the authority of that man” (D&C 121:37).
1.       Patrons of pornography  lose the companionship of the Spirit. Pornography produces fantasies that destroy spirituality. “To be carnally minded is death”—spiritual death (Rom. 8:6; see also 2 Ne. 9:39).
-Make sure the Young Women understand they  become pornography to young men if they dress immodestly.

- Romance novels can be  pornography as well with it's pornographically explicit plots.

2.       The scriptures repeatedly teach that the Spirit of the Lord will not dwell in an unclean tabernacle. When we worthily partake of the sacrament, we are promised that we will “always have his Spirit to be with [us].” To qualify for that promise we covenant that we will “always remember him” (D&C 20:77). Those who seek out and use pornography for sexual stimulation obviously violate that covenant. They also violate a sacred covenant to refrain from unholy and impure practices.
Most people in trouble end up crying, 'What was I thinking?' Well, whatever they were thinking, they weren't thinking of Christ. Yet, as members of His Church, we pledge every Sunday of our lives to take upon ourselves His name and promise to 'always remember him' (D&C 20:77). So let us work a little harder at remembering Him." Jeffrey R. Holland, "Place No More for the Enemy of My Soul,"
3.       Pornography is addictive. It impairs decision-making capacities and it “hooks” its users, drawing them back obsessively for more and more. A man who had been addicted to pornography and to hard drugs wrote me this comparison: “In my eyes cocaine doesn’t hold a candle to this. I have done both. … Quitting even the hardest drugs was nothing compared to [trying to quit pornography]” (letter of Mar. 20, 2005).
4. It destroys relationships and every line of trust, confidence, and spirituality.  It is like Meths on our souls.
5. It creates a false sense of what is real and what love feels like.  It ruins marital intimacy.

Read-For the Strength of Youth :  Entertainment and the Media

What are your media standards?  Use these questions from the resource manual to have a discussion.
What are some indications that we are spending too much time watching TV, playing video games, texting on cell phones, using social media and the Internet, or using other forms of media?

How can you help your friends understand and respect your personal media standards?

All forms of media are tools. How can we use such tools to bless our lives and the lives of others? How can these tools be harmful or detrimental?

How have you used Church media sites, such as

How can we share the gospel using social media?

This section comes from my friend Jocelyn at We Talk of Christ We Rejoice in Christ
 Here is her post on {Teaching Teens to Avoid Pornography}

Handout with a magnet on the back

Print Virtue handout: {click here}
Jocelyn's Virtue Bookmark {click here}

Use V.I.R.T.U.E. to guard yourself against Porn:

a. V – Visit places where the Holy Ghost is strong (i.e. church, temple, scriptures, YW, mutual,, etc.) View material that invites the spirit and brings true happiness.
b. I – Be Informed about the people you date or spend time with. (Ask the tough questions.) Be Informed about the material you read, movies you watch, music you listen to. Read reviews from trusted online sources.
c. R – Respect yourself and others. Respect the covenants you have made and will make in the temple. Respect your future spouse and children. Respect other women by speaking against pornographic material in all of its forms.
d. T – Be True to your standards of dress and modesty. (What you wear speaks volumes about how you value your self-worth. Do not send mixed messages. Do not lower your standards for special occasions. Do not evoke inappropriate thoughts in the minds of others by dressing immodestly.)
e. U – Use the off button (much more often than you do!)
f. E – Be Modest with your Eyes and Ears. Turn away from sexually explicit material, jokes, commercials, and TV programs that spoon-feed you small amounts of pornographic material until you gain an appetite for it. Instead, do all that you can to “hunger and thirst after righteousness

 Handout collage on a large magnet board in YW! 

Did you know?

The target right now for pornography is young women.

In this month's New Era, there are 2 scenarios of young women who have been addicted to pornography! See {Questions and Answers}